Bitterness can kill your marriage – Hebrews 12:15 Look diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God: lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled. (KJV)
The Bible talks about bitterness as a root, specifically an acrid, bitter poisonous root.Bitterness is a love killer, it is so important that we learn to talk about our feelings so we don’t bury them. Hurt that is not dealt with becomes bitterness. Couples cannot afford to let a lot of unresolved feelings pile up. The Word tells us do not let the sun go down on our wrath. Deal with issues, you won’t sleep well when you are angry anyway.
Here are some characteristics of bitterness; it has stages beginning with milder feelings of irritability, if not dealt with it moves to resentment, indignation and then anger from that you will develop feelings of hatred, then evil imaginations and finally cold indifference . This is often the point where couples no longer care and divorce is usually not far behind.
Here are some of the causes of bitterness ; 1) hurt, 2) offenses (Proverbs 18:19 A brother offended is harder to be won than strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle. 3) Fornication and sexual sins (Proverbs 5:4 describes the end of the life of a woman who lived a life of sexual sins -“her end is bitter as wormwood” 4) Being profane, godless, and sacrilegious like Esau who was bitter because of all he lost (Hebrews 12: 16,17) and finally 5) Unforgiveness.
Verse Verse 15 in Hebrews 12 shows us the process that bitterness develops… Look diligently lest… 1.) You fail of the grace of God (Fall back and fail to receive His grace) 2.) Roots of resentment and bitterness shoot up. 3.) If not rooted out, it causes you trouble and torment. Finally 4. ) You are contaminated and defiled.