Are You in A Dry Empty Place?
We have all at times found ourselves in a dry place where our spirit is parched and we feel empty, hopeless, desperate and unfulfilled. There is at the core of each of us a place that God created for Himself to fill. There is a spiritual hunger that cannot be filled by anything or anyone else but God. We fill our days with noise and busyness of the world, not wanting to get still because that’s when we feel that barrenness.
We say we love God,you can be anointed and gifted and using your gift to serve God and still not be intimate with Him. So we have tried to make our husband or our wife or children the foundation of our lives, but deep down we feel that craving in our gut that lets us know something is still missing. We begin running after things or people that we think will fill the empty place, some even start looking at other men or women wondering if they could satisfy something that our spouse is missing.
So in the middle of the crowd and the shouts of praise in church your soul is dry and parched. The devil’s next ploy is to make you blame someone else for your emptiness, it is Mom’s fault, Dad’s fault, my husband, my wife, is not meeting my need, my children are not here for me, my pastor is not caring for me, the saints are not nurturing me, God it’s your fault you took my loved one who filled me up. I’m leaving this church, I’m finding me another man, another woman. Some of our wild goose chases go in cycles and we end up wandering for 10 and 20 years. Another church, on to the next pastor, find me another man, get me a better woman. Because they were never meant to be the one to fill you up you just end up with another set of problems, different faces and still dry, empty, bitter and now guilty.
When we don’t get our God need met we try to pull it from our spouses or our children or others. We develop wrong relationships, making people the center of our world. We make unreasonable demands, try to control them, are jealous of their time because they are our life. You will either run the person away or they will be miserable. It also makes up put up with abuse because we think we cannot live withour our spouse. It makes parents hold on and get overly involved with grown, married children which can sometimes destroy their relationship. When they leave or die your foundation for life is gone and you will feel more devastation than you should. God did not make people to be the center of our lives. Parents your children will grow up and leave, your parents will die, your spouse can die or leave. God is the only one who will never change, never leave you or fail you. Every other foundation is sinking sand.
Get off the merry go round, you have a God who knows every crack and crevice of your spirit, every need that you have or ever will have. He is tailor made to fit the space in the middle of your core because He made it for Himself. And He says ” I will be first in your life” , your foundation , your purpose for living is not to be found in anyone else. You were not created for your parents, you were created for God, they were just caretakers. You were not created for your children, they will move on, your spouse is not supposed to be your foundation. God will use every loss, every disappointment, every empty place to draw you to Himself. He is longing for you, He has what you need, He loves you more than anyone else, He accepts you and wants to fill you up to overflow.
You must make your own individual journey and find Him in the secret place, it will take time, consistency, going back again and again in prayer, look in the Word of God for yourself, learn how to worship him, until you learn how to live in the secret place. Oh it is a sweet spot, where you feel right, and free yet secure and protected. You feel loved and nurtured. In that spot you don’t care what people think about you, their rejection rolls off your back and you even feel sympathy for them, you see differently, your mindset changes, what He wants is more important than anything else. He whispers, “I love you” and you know it’s true, your heart wells up, you feel His embrace and the little girl , the little boy in you rests in His arms. One word from Him dispels fear, worry, questions are answered and destiny is revealed.
It is exciting in the secret place, He sends you on missions like a secret agent, you do battle, you snatch souls from hell. Your ministry then becomes about His smile of approval that you did good. Regardless of what others think. Then your human relationships have a healthy foundation and you can love them out of the overflow of your relationship with the Lord, instead of demanding them to be your everything.
The Lord is waiting for you in the secret place, find it, push everything and everyone else out of the way to find Him there waiting with arms open wide wanting you. It hurts Him so much to see you suffer and struggle running after lovers who cannot fill you and heal you.
Pray for rain when your heart is dry and empty, cry out to Him to heal your broken heart, seek His face, meet Him in the morning and in the evening, get up in the night season worship Him, love on Him. He’s there… waiting.
Dr. Ja’Ola Walker